It seems as though one cannot make it through an entire day
without drama popping up somewhere. Whether at work, in the news, or within our
own homes, we are constantly surrounded with chaos and crisis. While some seem
to thrive on it, others avoid it like the plague. Not all drama is harmful.
Like stress, it can be an opportunity to develop problem solving skills that
will also help us in other areas of our life. And it can motivate us to take a
closer look at its source and make any necessary changes that benefit us and
those around us.
Life is very much like the theater: there are dramas,
mysteries, musicals, and comedies. You are the writer, producer, director, and actor
of your own production who chooses what genre you live in and the nature of the
script. You also choose which productions to purchase tickets for should the
play be that of another play write. You are not required to attend or perform
in the innovative work of any other person. If invited, you can always decline
using the standard excuse, "I'm so sorry but I have other plans that
evening."
Chaos gives the illusion of power as those who initiate or
engage it in can at times evoke certain responses from the other actors. For
some, this behavior is considered the norm as it has been present in their
lives since the get go. Others assign themselves the role of victim to those
who are stirring up drama. It is a
behavior that, like drugs and alcohol, can become addictive. Severe or extended
crises can damage one's health,
relationships, and overall quality of life.
How does one remove or reduce chaotic behavior?
1. Know when to mind your own business, stay focused on your
own life and work on your own issues. Be firm with your decision not to engage
in other people's drama.
2. Keep everything in perspective. Not every event needs to
be classified a crisis.
3. Offer assistance on important issues if necessary and you
are so inclined to do so. Remain positive and hopeful. Help others to see
things from a positive perspective.
4. Set conditions for your involvement such as what you are willing
offer, how much/long/to what extent you will do so, and what is expected of the
other party as well.
5. Know when it's time to withdraw and walk away without
guilt or regret.
Like a great theatrical writer, carefully determine the
genre of your life:
Choose comedy first, infusing generous doses of
laughter and fun.
Introduce a little mystery, seeing life as a an adventure
to discover, an enigma to unfold, a riddle to be solved.
Blend
in a musical component: fill your
play with beautiful music and song. Sing and dance with passion - it's
good for the body and soul.
When
necessary, prudently infuse a hint of drama, careful not to contaminate the
overall substance of your production.
Inviting drama and chaos into your life drowns out any hope
for inner peace. You were created to live peacefully and joyfully. So chose the
content of your life carefully for you are the writer of your own destiny.
“Each one has to find his peace from within. And for peace
to be real it must be unaffected by outside circumstances.” Ghandi
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