ANGER
TURNED INWARD: RESEARCH NOTES
My interview with Cloe Jonpaul
Anger
Turned Inward Quiz
• _ I
don’t like to hurt anybody’s feelings.
• _
Other people might get mad, but I don’t.
• _
It’s hard for me to really care about myself.
• _
Sometimes I might act a little unhappy if I feel angry.
• _ I
tell myself I shouldn’t get angry even if somebody else would.
• _
When I say somebody makes me sick, I mean it literally. I just can’t let go of
the stress.
• _
All I really want is peace with no conflict.
• _
Even when I’m angry with someone, I feel like I should make sure they are doing
okay.
• _ I
get mad at myself for things I would comfort others about.
• _
Other people don’t know I wear a mask, because I am so good at it.
• _
Usually I just keep all my feelings to myself.
• _ I
feel guilty when I feel angry or resentful.
• _ I
am ashamed of myself when I get angry. I should be better than that.
• _
I’m too busy to take care of myself, even if I know I should.
• _
I’m always doing things wrong.
• _ I
have an addictive behavior I use when I’m angry. It makes me feel better at the
moment, but later I feel worse.
• _ I
tend to have accidents when I get angry, like hammering my finger.
• _
Some days I get so angry that I would like to hurt myself.
• _
If I hurt myself, maybe other people won’t hurt me.
• _
It’s hard for me to care about myself.
• _ I
don’t care what I do, just so long as I don’t hurt anybody else.
Put a
check mark next to the statements that apply to you. Count them. If you have
three or more items checked, look at how you can change to treat yourself
better. If you have six or more check marks, it’s likely that you have some
anger-turned-inward habits that affect your life negatively. If you have eight
or more check marks, you definitely have some anger-turned-inward habits to
change. Changing a few things could make you feel a lot better about your life.
http://www.newharbinger.com/Blog/tabid/36/articleType/ArticleView/articleId/239/anger-turned-inward.aspx
OFF THE COUCH
15% of
depressed individuals will commit suicide - the final act of desperation and an
avoidable, treatable condition.
Depression
limits your ability to make even simple functional decisions – like what to
have for dinner. It’s no way to
live.http://emptyyourcup.com/blog/stress-relief-from-depression-rage-turned-inward/
Cecil
McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping
Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that
you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation
Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and
life Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com
Dr.
Philip Gold of the American National Institute of Mental Health was able to
prove that stress and depression trigger the release of emergency hormones,
causing brittle bones, infections and even cancer. Brittle bones are a major
cause of death among women today. In many people, these stress hormones are no
longer merely triggered occasionally but they are kept at constant
‘hyper-readiness’. When they are turned on and stay on for a long time, they
destroy appetite, impair the immune system, block sleep, break down bone and
shut down the processes that repair cell tissue.
The
latest findings in the field of Neuroscience have shown that levels of
serotonin, an important neurotransmitter that is linked to the experience of
pleasure, are 20-25 percent lower in patients who are at high risk of suicide.
Serotonin is particularly active in a part of the brain that controls
inhibition, and a lack of the neurotransmitter, or its related chemicals,
lowers the amount of control a person has over his actions. This predisposes a
person to act on suicidal thoughts.
Suicide
is the eighth leading cause of death in the United States.
Andreas
Moritz IT’S TIME TO COME ALIVE
Anger
is an emotional response to a situation. Feeling angry is no more harmful than
feeling happy; it takes your brain only 100 milliseconds to have an emotional
reaction to something. It takes the next 500 milliseconds for the cortex of our
brain to recognize that reaction [source: Johnson]. It's how you respond to
feeling angry that matters. You could express it outwardly (you tend to let
your feelings out) or you could express it inwardly (you tend to bottle your
feelings up).
As
many as 12 percent of people with major depression end up committing suicide
[source: Friedman].
Sometimes,
though, the depression-anger link can seem to work the other way around. Think
of the common saying regarding depression: "Depression is anger turned
inward." When you feel angry, that feeling is often derived from a sense
of hurt, and an angry person may seek to pass that hurt on, or take drastic
action to change the anger-inducing situation.
However,
when it's externally directed, anger doesn't effect fundamental change in the
perception of your situation. Instead, that anger may eventually be directed
inward, toward a new found object of hatred: yourself. At that point, self-pity
can't be too far behind as you dwell on the inherent unfairness of life, or on
the hopelessness of the situation.
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